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I find things hard to quit.  Luckily I’m not a smoker (not a puff since I was 15) or a drug do-er, but I find other things hard to quit.  Or maybe it’s hard to start.  It’s one of the two.

They (they who?) say that a habit takes 21 days to form.  Then I realized I haven’t posted for 20 days.  Hmmmm.  So I’m back.  Writing.  Without much to say, but at least I’m doing it.  I’m doing it instead of facebooking.  Instead of instagramming.  Instead of contesting.  I’m doing it to start my brain and focus.

Wouldn’t that be a nice habit to start.  Today.  Focus.  Focus on the goals I want to achieve.  Focus on my work one thing at a time.  Focus on every day doing something that works towards what I want instead of thinking about what I want.  Focus.

The older I get, the more respect I have for rational people.  That doesn’t mean heartless people, but I realize that there’s so much value in the rational.  The sensible.

Watching a friend of mine today with her 11 month old daughter, I loved how she explained to her daughter why bumping her head made her cry.  It’s not just about soothing.  It’s about soothing and explaining.  Why is almost as important as it’s going to be ok.  Brilliant.

And that made me think about how we communicate.  When we see someone crying, do we tell them it’s ok or ask what’s wrong?  Is it I know best or you know best.  And how would the rational come to play?  This post won’t end with an answer.  But it’s non-chocolately, non-sugary food for thought.